Readers who also get my monthly newsletter are possibly aware of a recent professional development program that I’ve signed on to in order to up my one-on-one coaching skills.
I’m now a little over month into the 6-month long professional coaching certification program with CTI, and loving every minute of it.
Included in the work, in addition to time spent coaching clients, is a regular weekly Zoom call with the other 8 coaches in my “pod”, with our course leader.
In preparation for our first call, we were asked to prepare a response to two queries about our expectations for the program.
What Are Your Assumptions?
The first thing we were to consider and expound on was our assumptions about the journey on which we were embarking.
Now my particular situation was quite a bit different from that of the average participant, because a long time had elapsed from when I took all of the prerequisite courses to when I began the certification program.
I completed those in 2014, and a five-year gap is far from standard.
So my response to the assumptions question was that it would be like riding a bike, meaning that despite the time lag, the coaching would all come back to me quite quickly.
What Promises Are You Making?
The next question was completely different, but I felt compelled to tie my answers together.
We were asked what promises we were making to ourselves about our participation in the program.
I thought about that one for a while, before being sparked into jotting down: “If I fall off my bike, I’ll get right back on and keep riding”.
I felt so clever in the moment, and I was pumped to share my answers the next day.
Change of Plans
Now imagine my disappointment when we actually began our introductory call and our leader went off script and asked two different questions instead! Ah, crap!
I managed to answer his prompts on the spot, but my replies weren’t nearly as memorable as the ones I’d prepared. Oh well.
But then, in my regular session with my own coach, Melissa, I relayed the story to her.
“Hmmm. You seem excited about this subject. Maybe there’s a blog in there for you?”
And here we are.
The Family Business Angle
You all know that I love to relate stories, and now the trick is to turn this into something worthwhile for families who are planning an eventual intergenerational wealth transition.
So let’s start with Assumptions and then move on to Promises.
Assumptions in an Enterprising Family
This part is actually pretty simple for me, because assumptions are at the heart of many of the key issues that families face.
In fact, a large part of the role that I play when working with families is to have them recognize the assumptions that they hardly even realize they are making.
Once they recognize them, they can start to deal with them. And by deal with them, I mean that as a coach, I will challenge them to actually verify that their assumptions are in fact valid.
My Kingdom for a Forum
The main reason that assumptions persist in not being “aired out” is that families don’t have a forum in which to have the important discussions necessary to clarify that everyone has a common view on important matters.
I talk a lot about the importance of family meetings, and the key is always to have a series of meetings, where the date of the next meeting is always set before the end of the current meeting.
Please See: 5 Things you Need to Know: Family Meetings
Promises in an Enterprising Family
The idea of promises in an enterprising family is a bit less clear to me. Obviously when working with family, we often feel much closer to each other and there’s an inherent promise to do what is best for the group as opposed to ourselves.
But I think that my “take home message” on this should go along with what I wrote about assumptions.
While you are meeting and clarifying everyone’s assumptions about the future of your family enterprise, why not also make it a point to also enunciate the promises that you’re all making to each other?
Get Back On the Bike!
In closing, I recognize that some families start these meetings and then lose momentum.
To them my message is simple: Just get back on the bike and ride again!